A Brighter Day are specialists in child and teenage behaviour problems. Confidential appointments can be made at our Hull or Hessle offices.
Bullying / Cyber Bullying
Bullying is being mean to another child over and over again. Bullying often includes:
Talking about hurting someone
Leaving children out on purpose
Attacking someone by hitting them or yelling at them
Children who are bullied can feel like they are:
Different / Powerless
Unpopular / Alone
Children who are bullied have a hard time standing up for themselves. They think the child who bullies them is more powerful than they are. Bullying can make them:
Sad, lonely, or nervous
Have problems at school
Bully other kids
Bullying does not always happen in person. Cyberbullying is a type of bullying that happens online or through text messages or emails. It includes posting rumours on sites like Facebook, sharing embarrassing pictures or videos, and making fake profiles or websites.
"It just takes over your life. You can’t stop thinking about it and worrying – wondering what is going to happen next.
You feel completely alone and like there’s something wrong with you. You start to feel worthless."
Children can be particularly vulnerable at times of transition, when any emotional difficulties they may be experiencing are compounded by changes which they may find stressful or frightening such as:
Leaving home or care,
Transferring to adult services,
Facing or being in custody,
Experiencing a family break-up
In the context of a bereavement
Preparing for exams
Some of the signs that your child may be self-harming;
Since adolescents often engage in self-harming behaviours alone, parents may not be aware that this problem exists. Being observant can often uncover early signs of self-injury, such as:
An abnormal number of cuts/burns on the wrists, arms, legs, hips or stomach;
Wearing of long sleeves and pants even in warm weather to cover the marks;
Frequent ‘accidents’ that cause physical injury;
Evidence that your teenager’s friends are self-mutilating;
Finding razors or knives in strange locations;
Your teen locking themselves away for long periods of time in their bedroom or bathroom;
Reluctance to be part of a social circle or social event.
If you feel your child is showing signs that he/she may be self-harming or having suicidal thoughts then contact one of our counsellors.
Signs of Low Self-Esteem in Children
Your child seems discouraged and reluctant to attend school.
Your child often makes negative statements about himself or others.
Your child lacks enthusiasm for projects that would normally excite him.
Shows reluctance to become involved in something new.
Often puts others or himself down, especially siblings.
Starts bullying behaviour toward others.
Has a tendency to blame others rather than owning responsibility for his/her own behaviour.
Shows strong inability to cope with a failure.
Gives up quickly and offers excuses such as boredom or tiredness.
Inappropriate behaviour such as acting silly, tomfoolery or clowning.
Your child avoids a task or challenge without even trying. This often signals a fear of failure or a sense of helplessness.
He quits soon after beginning a game or a task, giving up at the first sign of frustration.
He cheats or lies when he believes he's going to lose a game or do poorly.
He shows signs of regression, acting baby like or very silly. These types of behaviour invite teasing and name-calling from other youngsters, thus adding insult to injury.
He becomes controlling, bossy, or inflexible as ways of hiding feelings of inadequacy, frustration, or powerlessness.
He makes excuses ("The teacher is dumb") or downplays the importance of events ("I don't really like that game anyway"), uses this kind of rationalizing to place blame on others or external forces.
His grades in school have declined, or he has lost interest in usual activities.
He withdraws socially, losing or having less contact with friends.
He experiences changing moods, exhibiting sadness, crying, angry outbursts, frustration, or quietness.
He makes self-critical comments, such as "I never do anything right," "Nobody likes me," "I'm ugly," "It's my fault," or "Everyone is smarter than I am."
He has difficulty accepting either praise or criticism.
He becomes overly concerned or sensitive about other people's opinions of him.
He seems to be strongly affected by negative peer influence, adopting attitudes and behaviors like a disdain for school, cutting classes, acting disrespectfully, shoplifting, or experimenting with tobacco, alcohol, or drugs.
He is either overly helpful or never helpful at home.Talking about hurting someone
Teenagers often end up aggressive, both verbally and physically, and if your child is showing such signs, then you must get alerted. Aggression often builds up in a teenage due to many reasons such as low self-esteem, bullying, peer pressure, uncooperative parents, etc.
Coping with Child Rage - Why is your child so angry?
There are lots of reasons why your child may seem more angry than other children, including:
Seeing other family members arguing or being angry with each other
Struggling with schoolwork or exams
Feeling very stressed, anxious or fearful about something
Coping with hormone changes during puberty
It may not be obvious to you or your child why they're feeling angry. If that's the case, it's important to help them work out what might be causing their anger
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